I was going to try to edit this into more of a summary of a conversation I had with a coworker about Anthony. But I realized it would be better to just have it laid out for you in original form.
coworker: I just had a meeting with anthony
me: how was it?
coworker: so I scheduled 30 minutes to talk to him. I wanted to ask him what the meaning of the word collaboration meant to him. i swear that's what I asked him. then he went into this long talk about how our business should be synergistic
me: HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAA
coworker: and I said I was referring to his relationship with each one of us
I wanted to make sure I understood the difference between us and the interns. Are we collaborating at implementing his ideas?
He said no no no nononono. I said this is how I understand what you say. I want to let you know that his response is that maybe we should create a glossary of terms and definitions in tomorrow's meeting, hahahahah
me: omg!
coworker: YEP!
me: cuz that's a constructive use of time. what the fuck? did you laugh?
coworker: I said what might be better is giving everyone an opportunity to tell you one of their biggest concerns or frustrations as a result of all the changes so we can "collaborate" on a way to move forward or clear the air. he said "i don't know how we will do all that in one hour and I don't want to sit around talking ideas and then getting nothing done."
me: oh but creating a glossary is getting something done. what does he want to get done so badly?
coworker: he wants to construct a 20 foot statue of himself
me: HAHAHAHAHAHAHA
coworker: like the pyramids, and we will do it out of love for him
me: oh man, what are we gonna do?
coworker: I tried really hard to be constructive today, REALLY HARD
and he missed the whole thing. I was like "if you do not do this you will have a team that will see it as US and YOU."
me: he has zero intuition, and zero listening skills. i wish he would just come out and say, "i want you to do what i tell you" and then we can stop pretending he wants our ideas
coworker: yeah, seriously, it's exhausting
coworker: he only wants meetings so you can puff his ego
coworker: oh yeah, anthony's response to my feedback that we feel he is pushing things on us without our input: "we should take a half day and go to the park."
me: what?! take a half day and go to the park????? HAHAHAHAHAHAHA
coworker: I really wanted to say: "that will do no good if we don't like you." I tried to be constructive with him
me: i know
coworker: oh oh oh, i have to tell my favorite part
coworker: he said he will be moving over to our area soon
me: oh god
coworker: I said, "I don't think proximity is the issue. It would most likely be a bad thing right now."
me: did he have a response?
coworker: deflect, deflect, deflect, he has a mental illness, he only hears how awesome he is
me: he has a personality disorder, as does
coworker: my poor clients can never hear me when I give them positive feedback,
and this fool doesn't hear anything but how awesome he is
I have never met anyone with such an obvious narcissistic personality disorder. Here is the DSM Criteria. Anthony displays ALL signs.
A pervasive pattern of grandiosity (in fantasy or behavior), need for admiration, and lack of empathy, beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts, as indicated by five (or more) of the following:
- has a grandiose sense of self-importance
- is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love
- believes that he or she is "special" and unique
- requires excessive admiration
- has a sense of entitlement
- is interpersonally exploitative
- lacks empathy
- is often envious of others or believes others are envious of him or her
- shows arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes
Things are about to get really ugly. In the one week Anthony has been VP of Everything he has managed to alienate and devalue every single person that works under him. I'm having hard time imagining how it will get worse.
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